I got into my second relationship when I was 16. He was a malay boy. We were together for 4 years. We ended things cause we really weren’t right for each other. We fought, everyday. All we did was hurt each other. We brought out the worse of each other. I always like to think that we were those that are just not meant to be, not that we didn’t love each other enough. Afterall, love isn’t everything isn’t it? There are so many things that you will never compromise on no matter how you kept telling yourself to. Some of my friends said that its cause I didn’t love him enough that’s why I let him go. We fought hard, for our relationship. 4 long and hard years. Each time we broke up, I begged him not to go. I never ever thought I could live without him. I begged him to stay despite knowing we weren’t happy together. I was really foolish.
Yes, love is an important aspect of a relationship. But it isn’t everything. There comes a point where you just have to tell yourself that enough is enough. You know they say ” if you love someone, let him go. ” It’s true. I wasn’t making him happy, he wasn’t making me happy. We both had to let go of each other so that we can find someone who is suitable for us.
And when I finally let go of the relationship, I felt really liberated. I was so happy being single, in fact, much happier than I have ever been in the past 4 years. There are definitely bad times in a relationship, but if you guys can’t solve your problems and both of you are unhappy in a relationship, than whats the point? I am not saying that everyone should give up easily. But mine, I almost gave my best years of youth to him.
And fast forward a year plus after my breakup with him, I think I have finally found someone who makes me a better person. And loves me for who I am. And this, I thank God for him every single day.